How to Handle Being Served with Child Custody Papers

A person who is served with papers for a child custody case is often shocked and upset by the situation. Handing things the right way during that upsetting time is important, as missteps can result in lasting harm to a person’s child custody situation.

Each custody case is commenced by serving of papers upon the other parent. The legal system calls the parent whose attorney filed the case the “Petitioner” and the parent who received the papers the “Respondent.” Those terms will be used throughout this article. Having papers served is a necessary part of a custody case, and so it is best not to take it personally (as hard as that can be). Service of process is designed by our legal system to ensure that the Respondent properly gets the papers and is aware of the court case. It would certainly be unfair for the court to take action in a child custody case if the Respondent wasn’t even aware that there was a case pending.

When served with papers, it is important that a Respondent not take any action that will bring harm to the custody case. For example, in most states (including Iowa and Illinois), a person who engages in domestic violence will be less likely to receive custody from the court. Thus, an act of rage after being served with papers can have long-lasting negative effects. Similarly, posting negative things about the other parent on Facebook, or engaging in a text message argument can also reflect negatively upon a person with a pending custody case. Since such action cannot help the situation, but can certainly harm it, a person who has been served with custody papers in Illinois or Iowa is well advised to refrain from such actions entirely.